âThis is the very thing which makes up the virtue of the happy person and a well-flowing lifeâwhen the affairs of life are in every way tuned to the harmony between the individual divine spirit and the will of the director of the universe.â
âChrysippus, Quoted In Diogenes Laertius, Lives Of The Eminent Philosophers, 7.1.88
In undergoing a twelve-step program, many addicts struggle most with step 2: acknowledging a higher power. Addicts often fight this one. At first they claim itâs because theyâre atheists or because they donât like religion or because they donât understand why it matters.
But they later realize that this is just the addiction talkingâitâs another form of selfishness and self-absorption. The actual language of the step is pretty easy to swallow: â[We] came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.â Subsequent steps ask the addict to submit and let go. The second step really has less to do with âgodâ than those other stepsâthe letting go. Itâs about attuning to the universe and discarding the toxic idea that weâre at the center of it.
Itâs no wonder that the Stoics are popular with those in twelve-step programs. Itâs also clear that this wisdom is beneficial to us all. You donât have to believe there is a god directing the universe, you just need to stop believing that youâre that director. As soon as you can attune your spirit to that idea, the easier and happier your life will be, because you will have given up the most potent addiction of all: control.
There is fleeting power and there is real power. Fleeting power can be taken away, while real power is in our minds and our bones. The former tends to be along the lines of wealth, fame, high position, and the leverage all those things give us over others. The Stoics thought this kind of power was inferior to the real power that each person possessesâthe power of our minds to reason and make judgments and choices based on the real worth of things. You can have both kinds of power, too, but only if you keep the first kind of power subject to the kind of power the Stoics cared about.
âThis is the very thing which makes up the virtue of the happy person and a well-flowing lifeâwhen the affairs of life are in every way tuned to the harmony between the individual divine spirit and the will of the director of the universe.â
âChrysippus, Quoted in Diogenes Laertius, Lives of the Eminent Philosophers, 7.1.88
âDonât trust in your reputation, money, or position, but in the strength that is yoursânamely, your judgments about the things that you control and donât control. For this alone is what makes us free and unfettered, that picks us up by the neck from the depths and lifts us eye to eye with the rich and powerful.â
âEpictetus, Discourses, 3.26.34-35
âUnderstand at last that you have something in you more powerful and divine than what causes the bodily passions and pulls you like a mere puppet. What thoughts now occupy my mind? Is it not fear, suspicion, desire, or something like that?â
âMarcus Aurelius, Meditations, 12.19
If we were to describe Stoicism in one sentence, it would be this: A Stoic believes they donât control the world around them, only how they respondâand that they must always respond with courage, temperance, wisdom, and justice.
Summary of Daily Stoic 4 Stoic Virtues.
âThe chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my ownâ
âEpictetus
Wisdom is harnessing what the philosophy teaches then wielding it in the real world. As Seneca put it, âWorks not words.â
ââIf you seek tranquillity, do less.â Or (more accurately) do whatâs essentialâwhat the logos of a social being requires, and in the requisite way. Which brings a double satisfaction: to do less, better. Because most of what we say and do is not essential. If you can eliminate it, youâll have more time, and more tranquillity. Ask yourself at every moment, âIs this necessary?ââ
âMarcus Aurelius, Meditations, 4.24
Temperance is the knowledge that abundance comes from having what is essential. The Stoics often used temperance interchangeably with âself-control.â Self-control, not just towards material goods, but self-control, harmony, and good discipline alwaysâin pleasure or pain, admiration or contempt, failure or triumph. Temperance is guarded against extremes, not relying on the fleetingness of pleasure for happiness nor allowing the fleetingness of pain to destroy it.
âAnd a commitment to justice in your own acts. Which means: thought and action resulting in the common good. What you were born to do.â
âMarcus Aurelius, Meditations, 9.31
Justice is âthe principle which constitutes the bond of human society and of a virtual community of life.â
Epictetus said, âSeeking the very best in ourselves means actively caring for the welfare of other human beings.â
âDonât you know life is like a military campaign? One must serve on watch, another in reconnaissance, another on the front line. . . . So it is for usâeach personâs life is a kind of battle, and a long and varied one too. You must keep watch like a soldier and do everything commanded. . . . You have been stationed in a key post, not some lowly place, and not for a short time but for life.â
âEpictetus, Discourses, 3.24.31-36
Epictetus was once asked which words would help a person thrive. âTwo words should be committed to memory and obeyed,â he said, âpersist and resist.â
Courage to face misfortune. Courage to face death. Courage to risk yourself for the sake of your fellow man. Courage to hold to your principles, even when others get away with or are rewarded for disregarding theirs. Courage to speak your mind and insist on truth.