When I first began to write . . . I needed to use the time before they said, Mama— and that was always around five in the morning.
—Toni Morrison
One thing far too many parents have in common is that they are always putting off taking care of themselves. I’ll start going to the gym once they’re out of this sleep regression. I’ll start eating better once they’re less picky about food. My wife and I will get our relationship back on track once the kids move out.
This may come from a good place, but the results are good for no one. You have to take care of yourself. Now! You think your terrible eating habits aren’t contributing to your temper? Of course you’re grouchy—you feel like a disgusting piece of crap! You think you’re doing your kids a favor by shortening your life span? You think you’re modeling what a good person looks like when you’re struggling to get up the stairs or pick up a bag of groceries? You think you’re making them feel safe and loved by letting your relationship bleed out on the dining room table? You have to take care of yourself. For them. For you. Because you’ll be a better parent if you’re healthy, happy, and wise. Don’t put this off. It’s not selfish. It’s essential.